Questioners, myth busters, and feminist writers have always had a tough time, and probably always will if they are true to their “crime”.
Too often feminist writers are shut down before their work is read; the headline might offend, or a quick scan of the content might jar potential readers.
As women, we are told to be quiet, don’t rock the boat. We are told to “be nice”, and if we disobey, we are considered to be troublemakers. My sisters, you are not making trouble, you are seeking to get heard, to understand yourself and the world around you. Write, speak up, and heal because you are so worth it.
Too often our voices are taken away by a society that believes in conformance and compliance. An unwritten set of rules seems to have been written and one must conform to said rules. Women are expected to be compliant to all societal labels placed upon them; good mother, nice woman, great cook, sexy, smart but not too smart.
Sometimes a woman’s voice is taken away in subtle ways; maybe with a raised eyebrow, or the silent treatment, or a snarky “really?”.
Sometimes it is done blatantly:
“Don’t do it, or else…”
I will always push past the boundaries to see where “or else” takes me. I firmly believe that every unanswered question lies beyond “or else”, and I’m going to get there somehow. I encourage every woman to push past the boundaries placed upon your speech. These boundaries laid out by others have been damaging women for centuries.
It is this silencing of women that got us into violent situations. Silencing of women allowed the rape of children. Silencing of women made a rapist’s crime a woman’s disgrace. Silencing of women made us slaves to a society inherent with patriarchy. It is precisely because women were divided and conquered that we found ourselves in tragic situations. Patriarchy won out because women were not allowed to have a voice, much less have a united voice.
When it comes to my belief that everyone has something to say – to share their stories, or share something they wrote to better the situations women encounter – then I applaud these writers and will do everything in my power to give them a platform. Women speaking in public places have come a long way from standing on a soapbox while being pelted with stones. Or has it really changed, though?
I have learned to make tough choices when defending my work. Most times it will mean making some enemies, but the joy of knowing a few women felt some easing of their pain because they empathized with the writer’s work, then my darling it was all worth it.
Sisters matter more than naysayers’ opinions ever will.
Here are my tips for feminist blogging on this platform:
Write it out to the best of your ability the first time, then consult with a trusted friend that will tell you if it is coming from a place of belligerence, or if it is a well thought out article.
Never name names.
Never argue with someone who believes the piece is about them. For every ten persons that read it, one or two may believe it is about them. Usually it is not, it is always about the experience that may have gotten the writer to a place of understanding.
Personal feminist blogging is an opportunity to learn from experiences, grow from said experiences, and share with an audience the lessons learned from those experiences.
Writers reflect the world around them, in their own words. Readers have three choices; read the blog posts, start their own blog, or stay away from the author.
To all the feminist writers out there, if you are looking for a place to speak your words, to be heard, then you are so very welcome to submit articles on this blog
Write to us. Tell us your stories.